The Inspired Life
The Inspired Life
Parenting: Two Opposite Methods Part 2
Ever wondered how to help your kids uncover their hidden talents? Join us as we sit down with Emmanuel Pearl, who shares his journey of supporting his daughter through various sports until she found her passion for squash. We'll explore the importance of allowing children to experiment with different activities and the significant role that parental support plays in nurturing their innate abilities. This episode promises to provide practical insights for parents striving to balance their children's interests with their family's time and resources.
Struggling to maintain open lines of communication with your teenager? We tackle this challenge head-on, discussing effective strategies for balancing work and parenting while ensuring your children feel heard and respected. Emmanuel and I exchange personal stories about the delicate act of allowing children to express their emotions constructively, without crossing the line of disrespect. Through our conversation, we highlight the long-lasting impact of treating children with emotional respect and maintaining a healthy boundary between parental authority and friendship.
Navigating the pitfalls of parenting in the digital age can be daunting. Listen in as we explore the complexities of managing children's access to technology and social media. Reflecting on our own upbringing, we debate appropriate ages for social media use and the potential risks involved. Emmanuel and I stress the importance of guiding children to use technology wisely while maintaining trust and setting firm boundaries. The episode wraps up with a candid discussion about balancing different parenting styles, the nuances of school experiences, and the importance of being a present and supportive parent.
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Hello listeners, welcome to today's episode of the Inspire Life podcast. I'm Deepika, a fitness and behavior coach and your host at this show. We are continuing our conversation with Emmanuel Pearl today, part two of our last episode. And today we are going to be talking about social media, the effect of online technology and all that exposure that brings in our children's world in this day and age. And, of course, the very important topic for any parent is finding me time, finding that little pockets of sanity for yourself while you are doing this arduous job of being a parent. Enjoy. Now, how are you? How are you helping her decide what kind of extracurricular activities she will be good at or she should try, and how are you trying to do that? How do you figure that out?
Speaker 2:At school she does her activities and she keeps changing it every year, like basketball one, tennis, one badminton one.
Speaker 3:They have four things. They have to pick up two sports, two sports or something and all that. You know right, she has picked up some. I think she already picked up basketball and she picked up tennis.
Speaker 2:Tennis she played this summer, yeah.
Speaker 3:So if the kid has interest and has the talent you would have known by, now that she's been good, Correct, but now she suddenly introduced some. We have a club here in Sainipuri. Took place in Skosh and she really enjoys it.
Speaker 2:She is actually good at it and she looks forward to it After introducing her to so many of these games, she suddenly has found her niche.
Speaker 3:This is something that she is really keen on. She is kind of good at it also. She is picking up the sport also.
Speaker 2:Thank you, Dengvish. Yeah, anything expensive bats, rackets and all those things. So now you don't mind spending also?
Speaker 3:She is. I want to play tennis, but she is such a big fan I wouldn't have it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's true, my son was crazy about football. He loves playing it, but I figured out in the first 6-8 months 1 year that he didn't have the natural talent for football. He was very focused on learning and repeat all that. But some kids are born with certain. But I could see he was really good at track and sports and it was a task for us to encourage him to pursue tennis, because most boys right, all the boys are running together. It was very exciting for him to play football and he wanted to play football. So that was a task for us and I said listen, I told him this too. I don't know if it was the right thing. I said, listen, you are not very good at football, you love playing and you are not bad at it. But I would like you to explore. I am not saying become a professional player. We don't have the bandwidth to make you a professional player. Nobody is going to run around and drive you for tournaments. But if you are good at something, which I can see, try and develop that skill and make it better At school.
Speaker 1:He is doing his school. They have, like she can pick two here. They have every few months the coaching changes. So they have basketball, football, tennis and cricket. He bunks cricket but joins everything else. I have not been able. I am like go and try once. He is like it's too boring. No, no, but I think I have slightly different able.
Speaker 3:I'm like go and try once, Like he's, like it's too boring, no, no. But I think I have a slightly different opinion on this. I mean, if your kid shows interest in football, yeah, I think if you make him play racquet sports or whatever, but then if he shows interest in football, you just continue. That I mean because if he shows interest.
Speaker 3:Correct. So you push him Because that's a talented kid, but also because the parent has been at it, you know correct, he was more, like you know, focused and he knew that she had a talent. She didn't want to initially, you know initially and then after picking up also, she was good at it. But then again, like kids, you know they'll give up, right? I don't want.
Speaker 3:I want to do something else she said no, no, you still can you do whatever you want to do, but continue. She said no, no, no, you still can. You do whatever you want to do, but continue this. So three hours he made sure she did that and then did whatever she wants to do, and she is brilliant now she is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I have seen her videos. Yeah, she is amazing. She is amazing and I would say all credit to not just her practice.
Speaker 1:But her father to make sure the three hours of practice every single day. But that's the thing right. We both, very early on we realised that because he was very good at racquet sports so we did think about putting him in badminton. Go to what is that place? Lb stadium, where they do professional training right at the state level and everything.
Speaker 1:One of my friends is an ex national level badminton player and I had a chat with her and she told me very honestly she's like, unless you intend to put a lot of time and effort in making sure you're going at 3.30 am4 am, he's at the class and he's doing then school and then come back to again class. There's no points ending there. And we both like, very honestly, as parents also, there's only so much we can do. We knew we, we both, could not maintain that lifestyle. We both had had to go to work. One of us couldn't just stay back. It wasn't an option. And even with football, I think a big decision of making him stop and go to tennis was football to drive to Begum Pit from our house.
Speaker 1:In peak traffic, so three hours. One parent has to give up every evening or alternate days. Versus tennis was early morning, very close home.
Speaker 3:So we are, like you know, convenience again. What do you do?
Speaker 1:like end of the day, we have to go make a living. You have to do other things, so, but yeah, in the school now he's playing all of it yeah now another big part again of their personality we did parents are your influence, family influence and education system.
Speaker 1:The, finally, again, things that are emotional and mental health. Right now, how do you make sure especially with teenagers, because it's something I struggle with also to make sure that they feel that they can openly communicate with you about their feelings or whatever they're going through in school, outside, or with their own physical and mental health?
Speaker 2:I, I I think I do a lot of talking myself and if and it's not that I'm extremely patient all the time, like I do have my tempers and stuff, yeah, but I always like when I'm talking to her something and whenever there's a tone also, yeah, I always tell her when I'm talking to her or something, and whenever there's a tone also, I always tell her when I'm talking to you, am I giving you respect? So she said yes. So I said you can disagree with me, but you cannot disrespect me. That's my rule. So I have told her Say heavy, heavy, solid, no, no, no. And I told her you can all if you can, if you are. You are a person. I treat her as a just another person, yeah, who has same emotions that we have. She can be upset, hurt, of course, anger, and I think it's absolutely fine to be angry. And then I tell her that if you're angry and you don't like something I said, you don't need to talk to me. You can go to the room, you can. You don't don't have to give back. Yes, right now you can cool down and come and talk to me and tell me mama, you said something and I did not like it, and I'll also be in a better state to probably receive it that way. Yeah, so, and I for me I have.
Speaker 2:I feel that this is very common in a lot of people where when you have, when your kids are very small they are five, six and all you people treat kids like they don't feel bad, they will get over it. But I remember things like as a child. I remember if someone has spoken unkindly to me, and there are a few things that are there still in my mind that I remember it and it still hurts that somebody has said something like this and for what? Like? And you're just a child and as a child you can't give back right Because you can't speak in a certain way to elders. So I and that helplessness and the unfairness was not I mean, it still hurts till now and I tried to realize that with my child and I think that she can be upset and angry, and I don't, since I am not a great parent. She has the right to disagree with me also ah, fuck Kiran.
Speaker 3:No way she can't say it to me.
Speaker 1:I think two people can disagree with each other no no.
Speaker 3:I whoop your bloody ass that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:She can disagree with me, but she cannot disrespect me. It's the only thing. It's for us. She can disagree with us. She said I don't like what you did. I did not like what you did and you can tell me about it and I'll hear it out and I'll listen and maybe I'll try to understand and maybe I'll still think that what I did is right. But I can give you a chance to talk about it. But you cannot give back or say anything to me, because even if you're 90 years old, I'm still your parent.
Speaker 2:Yes, I agree, there's no, and I also believe this is in my belief that parents cannot be friends. You can be friendly, but I don't want to be a friend Like. She can come and talk to me and I can be friendly, but she needs to have friend, her age and see, we don't tell anything to our parents. We say I'm friendlier, friendlier. But if you have to confide, you probably want a person and I want that. I want to be her person, her support. I can be her support, but I cannot. I mean, if she's looking for a friend, she'll have to find friends.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I. This is something I tell my son also when he's having these big feelings. It's completely okay to have all these emotions, right, you can get angry, you can get upset, you can disagree with me, you can hate me. For that moment, we've all gone through that phases of hating our parents. At a certain point, right, I remember sitting and crying and saying I hate my mother.
Speaker 1:But, uh, but you cannot, you cannot control, you don't have to control your emotions. Right, I tell him you can, you don't have to control your emotions, but you have to control how you react to it. Right, you're angry? Same thing. Go in a room, take a breather and then, when you're ready, we can have a chat. You can't yell at me and or throw things and you, you can't do that. Uh, so till now, we have, like I told earlier, he has big tempers too, and so we are kind of busy how bad or worse or good it gets over the years. But yeah, I think, uh, having letting them know that you can have a conversation with us, even if not in the heat of the moment but later, makes a big difference.
Speaker 1:Yeah, at least for me, while growing up, it was not an option. Your parents said something, you did something wrong. Like you just said get two slaps. They yell at you, they say no, this is it you don't get. I never could ask, but why? Yeah, I remember as I grew up, I did ask, but why? In a lot of anger. Sometimes I got an answer, sometimes no. Like I told you, my father's thing is meine keh diya na.
Speaker 3:Because I said so, I said so. Yeah, for me it's the same thing.
Speaker 4:Mine is the highway.
Speaker 1:Yeah, your way is very different.
Speaker 2:Call her and ask her I don't think she ever hated us. Call her, and ask her, we'll ask her in the end We'll call her and ask Because I think that you can recover from a slap, but you cannot recover from harsh words.
Speaker 1:Yes, harsh words, I agree.
Speaker 2:And I have been.
Speaker 1:Piaas se daal lagta.
Speaker 2:And one thing I've done with Katelyn is that I have told her one thing that I'm not a perfect parent. I mean, I've told her that there are many times I've come and said sorry to her and said it. I overreacted, I should have probably heard you out and you said this, but this is what I thought you meant that time. Maybe you didn't mean this, but I thought and I'm sorry, I'm really sorry, I shouldn't have done same. Yeah, and she has seen me say sorry quite a few times, so that's why it's it's more. I tell her when I can say sorry and I can accept you.
Speaker 1:It's a two-way street it's not going to be one. This is something we have to. Uh, and my son has such ego he's like he knows he's wrong. You can see him shaking up and I'll be like why can't you just say sorry to your mom that your behavior was wrong? Like he'll be like breathing hard he won't say anything, he will just not talk. And he'll just not talk.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no, I will say sorry to her but I have also told that I'm a perfect parent and it's awesome that you can't put a finger on me, so, but yeah what about technology?
Speaker 1:That's like again another problem when it comes to mental health and the kind of kids they are becoming. The access technology, and what age do you think it's okay for her to be on social media? Oh, I'm not on social media, I mean because, of my own choice you want her to have.
Speaker 2:Instagram and all no, not right now.
Speaker 1:When do you think is the right age where you would upload all that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, if we kids, then she can post her kids, which is instagram. Before that, I have a recording also. I'll be a swear also that she will not. She'll listen to me.
Speaker 1:How old was she at that time?
Speaker 3:It doesn't matter, but I have a recording.
Speaker 4:But no, yeah, I think she is.
Speaker 3:We have to control, of course. We can't just give the phone and just be totally. Let them have a free reign on it. But then see again, you just can't take it off completely because all the kids have it and she has to feel somewhere that she she knows what is what.
Speaker 4:I think after 12th yeah, yeah, but what after what? Open an Instagram? No fucking no.
Speaker 1:I told him just after marriage and after having kids, that's not after she's you just said middle ground somewhere.
Speaker 2:No middle ground, fucking no middle ground.
Speaker 3:Instagram is a piece of shit. That's that I don't have an account, okay, and I think I was just talking to my friend the other day. Did I take names? No, but I was talking to my friends the other day and then.
Speaker 1:I mean, if your friend is okay with then, you're making a shit.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I shouldn't.
Speaker 4:There's not even YouTube is better, I would say, as compared to Instagram.
Speaker 1:There's absolutely shit on Instagram, but you know how the algorithm works.
Speaker 4:The more, you see you.
Speaker 1:My professional account is full of only workout videos, because they are the people I keep watching, but then see again. You imagine a kid having a kid get access.
Speaker 3:and then what we can't control our urge to just flip those shit.
Speaker 1:Do you think a kid?
Speaker 3:would have the control. No, of course not. They are not mature enough to handle that. I think even 12 is not right. I think when she finishes degree and she has, I think 24 is well.
Speaker 1:My friend. She said 24 is not reasonable at all.
Speaker 2:Okay, I am just telling you one thing After sometime, maybe after 12th or whenever, it will not matter whether you give her permission or not yes, she will be speaking and doing it she'll know.
Speaker 3:If she wants to, she can always open an account she can have a facebook yeah, being realistic, of course she'll, she will, but I see you'll trust her also and you'll tell her there's a communication that you have to tell her that there is a lot out there, but you have to focus on what you want like I tell her yeah, she does research. Every now and then she wants something. She wants a skateboard.
Speaker 2:She's opened, she's done a lot of it skateboard awesome. I did not even know the studies also, right, you don't know?
Speaker 3:answer right, it's all there. Yeah, so the same interest you can show every day so you can teach her to have a right approach and use it. Use it wisely, yeah. Just don't give it to them and don't have any instructions, right. Give to them and tell them that you can use it to your benefit. You can use it to probably finish your ppt at when you're in 12th or when you're in your exam. You can be smarter, just copy and yeah from the fucking google and put it there.
Speaker 4:You can do that.
Speaker 1:But I think I do know some of the kids who are our kids age, who have their own social media account and they follow me and stresses me out. So I'm like I don't let them follow, I don't accept their request because I'm like I don't want kids to be. You know, as adults there are a lot of things we say, a lot of things we put up there which is meant for the eyes of other adults. You know, of course we are filtering our conversation and our behavior, our personality, according to when the kids are around and it's as till my son is in the school, we are escaping it because there's no social media access. He has no, nothing, no access there. When he comes home, he's not thinking at all about creating a account.
Speaker 3:he's so busy having a time there's no purpose for them. There's no purpose. See, we have purpose, you have purpose to be there on.
Speaker 1:For me it's work. I dislike it honestly.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you have, but you do it because you have.
Speaker 1:You have to do it right, there's a purpose. I don't see a reason why they should be there, correct?
Speaker 3:if there's a purpose, then I would fine but there's no purpose. If my kid is into something where she has to put something on social media, and so be it, but if she doesn't have a purpose, I don't want to be hit by it.
Speaker 1:Don't waste your time and I think we'll also have to whenever they are getting into it. We'll have to have the conversation of safe behavior, of who you not talk to what kind of accounts you? Don't go on which sites you should not look at and things like that, Because it does get very scary out there. Yeah, meet anybody oh my god.
Speaker 3:Yeah, a whole lot of things, but I think we are not very concerned about that. She has a phone which she uses very. I think she's smart in that term.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's a nice kid, she doesn't abuse it yeah, and I know what she watches and it's, it's nice. She just I think she's a lot into sports, gymnastics, animals, pets, and these are the things she watches a lot of people watch also what she's watching, and Mr Beast, of course, yeah yeah, yeah, I know, mr Beast, and that whenever my yeah, whenever my son comes home.
Speaker 1:We have saved a lot of like. Both Abhinav and I have this one folder on internet on Instagram, sorry where we save all reels you can save it right, so we save it for him. It's all football.
Speaker 2:We do that also, yeah we say and with dinner time we sit and show that whatever we save, we should, oh, dinner we lick tea and we laugh about it.
Speaker 1:So when he comes home we show him that. But yeah, I mean, I think that's something especially with teenage. How do you think has your parenting been affected or influenced by your upbringing?
Speaker 3:Yeah of course it will be affected by our upbringing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, do you think there are some good things you brought in. There are some bad things which you would like to part way, but that's how it's like kind of ingrained in you when you're brought in. Do you think there are certain things like that?
Speaker 3:Yeah, there is, I think, like I. I said I'm old school and yeah, I think we had three boys so we had to be whacked and uh, like we did. And now if I look back, I fucking, if I had, if I was that of these three boys, god help them right. So I think my parents did a very good job and I think we were wrong in many many ways and then also that you know how my dad used to just not mindlessly whack the shit out of us.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but then he did whack us like military army style, right, remove your clothes like a t-shirt and then touch your toes in the heat, and then he'd come out and come out but then again he explained why the fuck he did that right because we broke the tea stand.
Speaker 3:We just, you know, we were like, uh, hooligans, yeah, hooligans, absolutely. My mom managing three of us, so, yeah, three boys. So so I understand that part. So you have to balance again, all right, good and bad. Uh, so my, yeah, of course, my parenting does come from how I have been brought up and all that, but yeah, but good things and bad things both sometimes.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I, I do, uh like, but you have to be certain way and strict, and that if you say no, it's a no, it's a no and there's no, no discussion about it. There's no two ways about it, right? So I'm very particular about those things. Um, yeah, it does influence a lot, but I think we have struck up nice balance and, moreover, I think we are just blessed to have her.
Speaker 2:Yeah man easy kid.
Speaker 3:People say your kid is so nice because she is nice.
Speaker 1:If she was anything else, then I would be like the last holiday we were together and the rest of them were telling about how we both have, you know, your family. You both, and we both, have done such a great job of bringing up our kids.
Speaker 2:They are so lovely I don't know what I did?
Speaker 3:yeah, he's just so lucky that she is such a nice kid. I had to do something that she told something. I think worse, but no, because she's like that, she doesn't want. Even if I offer up here, she will not have it. Yeah, so she's not with me I would I had to be by her age. So you know, oh, wow, okay, thank god so you know that it's not just because our parenting, it's not because our parenting for sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because she's a lovely child. I think that we are just blessed to have her.
Speaker 2:What about you. So my mom, she was a single parent, yeah, and she did a fabulous job bringing both me and my sister up. Yeah, job bringing both me and my sister up. There's a lot of things that she could not do because it was not possible. A lot of things she could do. So right now, how do I say? I know what I want to do and I know what I clearly don't want to do, and this is based on my childhood or this thing. I'm very clear about what kind of parent I want to be. So that clarity I have in my head. And I don't know how it eventually turns up, whether it benefits or it affects her, but this is my truth, that this is what I want to do and this is the best I can do. If I am doing my best, I think it doesn't matter, I mean how it turns out. So there are lots of do's and don'ts and a lot of don'ts that I don't want to do.
Speaker 1:No man that makes sense. Any advice for?
Speaker 2:parents. What do you think? I think if you have a heart in the right place, you don't have to look at parenting styles this way, that way. I think there's a lot out there which really screws the mind. Our parents were good parents. Why they had nobody, they didn't read books or they didn't watch YouTube, right, they still were able to. They did a decent job yeah.
Speaker 1:We are fine. We are fine human beings.
Speaker 3:You have to believe you're fine and you should. And I think every parent doesn't want to kill their kid, right? They want the best for the kid just be there.
Speaker 1:I think that's the only thing you can do.
Speaker 3:You can do what you can give the kid is be there with the kid in everything possible, and that's that will change. For me it has worked.
Speaker 1:I agree completely. Thank you, this was very enlightening. We should get the actual what do you say?
Speaker 2:subject let's she will not speak, though but do you first?
Speaker 3:you tell because remember that we had recording and you said you will obey everything, every single word of what I say, till you are 35 years old. Do you remember that? Yes, no, do you intend?
Speaker 4:to stick to it. No, of course you intend to stick to it.
Speaker 3:I'll be the shit out of you. I have written a recording. Unlike this, it's a video recording.
Speaker 2:It can be taken to the court of law you have to.
Speaker 1:But you know, we were talking about how they are as parents, and your dad, as we all know, is kind of stricter right, yeah. Yeah, and your mom is.
Speaker 3:You're laughing, basically.
Speaker 1:She's staring at me like. Okay, and your mom is the one who has more conversations.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Which one do you prefer? More Difficult question it's ault question. And you like being yelled at? Huh, you like being yelled at by your dad? No, but do you think there are times that that's the only option he has left To yell at you.
Speaker 3:Absolutely, yes, absolutely.
Speaker 4:That should be my answer to yell at you, absolutely.
Speaker 3:Absolutely that should be the answer. No, you don't think so.
Speaker 4:No what rubbish. No.
Speaker 3:Then Deepya was asking was there any time in your life that you hated us? Yeah, I hate my dad, did you say that again?
Speaker 1:Did you think that ever? No At some moment or you're really angry with them Not hate, but really angry. We need to talk. It's not daddy, specifically. Yeah any one of them.
Speaker 3:Mama, I know you've never been, but no, no, no, she can be angry with me also, I've been angry with her many times.
Speaker 1:Do you remember why you were really angry with them?
Speaker 4:No, but I know I was going to be angry.
Speaker 3:I don't know why, with who? Me or mama?
Speaker 4:Both.
Speaker 3:At one point, right yeah.
Speaker 1:You clearly didn't agree to something she wanted. Yeah, and I think that's why she was.
Speaker 3:You can tell me what was it. I'll still be the shit out of you, but you can tell me.
Speaker 4:I don't remember Really yeah.
Speaker 3:Wait, after this podcast, I'll ask you, and yeah.
Speaker 1:And what about your school? What paths do you like and don't like about your school?
Speaker 4:What do you think would you like to be in your school, which is not there right now?
Speaker 1:Which I would like to be in the school, but I mean, not there something that you want we can get better, or something to make it better? Do you think you should have it, but it's not there right now.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's start with what are the?
Speaker 1:things in your school that you really like. What part of it like the teachers, the sports activities. Sports is good.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah and. But then they don't really teach us, they just let us play. Do whatever you want to do so.
Speaker 1:nobody is teaching you if you want to learn something?
Speaker 4:No, but they do teach the boys.
Speaker 1:Ah, this is a problem, isn't it? This I have heard in other schools also. She was telling me this yeah, like cricket coaching happens for boys, but it doesn't happen for girls.
Speaker 3:You know why? Because girls are losers.
Speaker 1:Then what do you do? Like you girls, you go outside. Like you go outside to learn squash yeah, does everybody go out to learn?
Speaker 4:then no, some people do, some girls. They just don't play, they just sit there and do nothing.
Speaker 1:This is so sad. No, it was like that when we were kids too.
Speaker 2:It wasn't really this is very late. She is telling this is happening, yeah and I was thinking that.
Speaker 4:No like, so we have inter house or like outside, like with different schools, we play, but they like give coaching to boys. But like some girls, they don't like some sports they do, but football they don't, and I don't know some other some sports they don't teach the girls and they.
Speaker 1:They have an evidence to give preference to boys sports yeah, yeah which is not right yeah, it's not, but yeah, most schools are like that, unfortunately. What about what you don't like? Don't like in your school, something about your school, some rule, some something, whatever, anything.
Speaker 4:I don't know that I have to plait my hair. You don't like that?
Speaker 1:you plait your hair. Your hair is already so short. Yeah, that's why it's short.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but this is a yeah same thing you know, that's the only thing you don't like in school.
Speaker 4:No the other thing I don't like, but school. No, the other thing I don't like, but that's the. You're talking about the library. You were saying that, yeah, the library they don't give like they have books, but then they're all torn up or they're saying they're in a bad state. Yeah, and they don't give a lot of books like very few.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's also something. What do you think? Last question yeah, if or you know what, we'll send your parents out and we'll just ask you and let's see. I'll not tell them what you answer, okay I can go okay, will you answer me honestly or not, as long as daddy doesn't interrupt, daddy, let us talk, us talk.
Speaker 1:Okay, both of you and you don't have to be scared of them. You know that very well. If there was something you wanted your parents to know, like you want them to, let's say, treat you differently or behave with you differently or give you something that they're refusing to, and you haven't been able to explain to them till now or told them, you can do it right now. Is there anything you really think you should or what?
Speaker 1:okay, let's do this, your closest friends yeah, right, and you spend a lot of time with them in their house you see their parents a lot? Yeah, see them together too. Is there something in their house you see their parents a lot? Yeah, see them together too. Is there something in their house that you see and really like, which you want in your house too?
Speaker 4:Not that I no, no, not Great.
Speaker 1:Everything is wonderful I don't think so.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, nothing See, you both are doing a very good job right answer, caitlin, I trained you well, but also I think she's too old.
Speaker 1:We should ask this questions to like six-year-olds.
Speaker 3:They don't have a pool. Her father doesn't yell at her so much.
Speaker 2:Father gives the pizza and the burger yeah, every weekend, and we don't get it.
Speaker 1:They get to watch TV so much.
Speaker 3:They don't have to eat banana and milk.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for talking.
Speaker 3:Bye, bye-bye, thank you so much for talking.
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